Wednesday, October 07, 2009

You are where you are because someone believes.

There was this story in the email about a child waiting for his mother at a junction. A stranger came along and stopped in front of the boy.
"Can you show me the way to the post office?" the stranger enquired.
"Of course! Just go down that street and you'll see the post office on the right side." the boy told him.
"Thanks. One day, I hope to have the opportunity to show you the way to heaven," the man who was a pastor said.
Upon hearing that, the boy said,"Aw! Forget it. How can you know the way to heaven when you don't even know the way to the post office?"

Of course, as adults, we understand that the pastor could be new in town and, therefore, do not know his way around. For the young boy, he just could not believe that a person who does not even know the way to the opost office could direct him to heaven.

This just shows that we have to be careful with how we approach young minds. With young minds, there has to be appropraite explanations; without which, the conclusions may be different. For example, if the pastor had told the child that he is new to the place, a total stranger to the town, the child would be able to understand his predicament. And if he had told the child that he was a pastor, the child could have understood how it was possible for him to know about heaven.

Belief is important to all of us. When we were young, our parents allowed us to be taken off their hands by another individual because they believe we would be safe with the person. We were sent to kindergarten because our parents believed that it would help put us in good standing with other children academically. We were allowed to go to the sundry-shop by ourselves because our parents believe we know the way and how to cross the road safely. We were given pocket money because our parents believed we knew how to count and use them correctly.

How did we managed to have our parents believe us? Easy. We learned all that was to be learned and showed them that we could do it.

Then, when we grew up, we managed to get an employer to believed that we could do a good job and was employed. If we happen to be at the top tier of the company, we must get our colleagues to believe we can help them to improve their financial position and their status in the company as well as in society if they work together with us to improve the production or the company. On the other hand, if we are in the lower rank and hope to climb up the promotion ladder we must get the head of our department to believe that we are an asset to him/her, that we can do the job and do it excellently.

Again, no matter who we may be, all we need to do is to show others that we can and will do it. Looking at our performance and listening to others on our reputation, people will know what we are capable of. So, perform well as a good manager/employer who cares for his workers or as an efficient worker who cares for his or her manager/employer and the company at all times.

Then, one day someone believed that we could make his/her life even happier and we got married. From then on till we leave this earth, whatever we get or not get depends on just one important factor; belief. In marriage, we must give our spouse the confidence and security of a happy marriage. It must be consistent so that all our efforts create the belief that we are the right people in our spouses' lives.

Love by itself cannot bring belief. We may care for a person very much but if we do not act consistantly for both persons' happiness, it can never be a happy marriage.
I know this for a fact. You see, though I loved someone, I knew there was no happiness I could bring her. So, I changed from the positive person I usually am to the negative person that was not my nature. As expected, without belief in the person, the relationship failed. So, love alone cannot create a happy relationship. Love must be followed by positive actions to create a belief that the relationship will work.

In life, all kinds of success comes only with belief.
I will be writing more on this as belief is of utmost importance in our lives.

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