When I was young and desired greatly the company of beautiful girls, sweating was my worst problem as there just wasn't any way I could overcome it. So I faced it by remaining in the coolest places available and cooling down every now and then to remain dry.
Then I got married and my beloved wife accepted this wet guy with so much love that I forgot about the sweat and enjoyed ourselves. Sweating just became a part of me and was accepted. I just had to bathe and change clothes often besides using up lots of handkerchiefs. I also realised that my friends also accepted this hot sweating person as I was and am.
Looking back, I believe one of the reasons I have remained as healthy as I am is my ability to lose litres of water every day. In removing that amount of water, so much more toxic substances from the body is also expelled. And I think it is the largest 'removal organisation' in our body. Well, the skin has the largest surface to perform such a task. The more we sweat, the more we drink. And the more we drink, we either sweat more or create more urine. And the urinary tract with the help of the kidneys is another disposal unit we surely need to rid our body of those undesirable toxic substances.
Ah, before I go on, the man who drank too much water came to mind. There was this man who had kidney stones and went through an operation to remove the stones. The doctor advised him to henceforth drink more water. So, wherever he went he carried his bottles of water and, like the good patient he was, drank the litres of water throughout the day. He drank too much, urinated too much and landed in hospital. According to the doctor he was lucky to survive as too much essential minerals, especially potassium, have leached out in his urine. Without potassium, his heart could have stopped beating and that would mean the end of him. So, be careful! Drink enough water but not too much. Too much of a good thing can be, well, too much.
So those we sweat too much like me should include some dehydration salts in their water. However, I have read that sports drinks, those isotonic drinks may not be the best drink for us. What is suggested is sea salt or Himalayan salt. (I have been trying Himalayan salt but to this day I have yet to know how genuine are the Himalayan salts I have bought. I take it but cautiously. I am still reading up on it and hoping to find a brand in Malaysia which provides genuine Himalayan salt.) Sea salt and Himalayan salt are the natural salts found in the sea or in the Himalayans and are not processed like our white table salt.
Thus far, sweating has helped my body remove most of the dissolved toxic substances and through this I have remained healthy. Thank god for that. Of course, sweating is not the only way and so I will be returning to this removal of toxins in a future posting.
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Thursday, June 23, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Listening is more important than talking.
This morning, at the hill, Grace told me about the couple who would talk and talk practically non-stop, giving her no opportunity at all to comment on the topic. Well, it was a one-way communication and she was forced to be the listener.
Of course, it is not bad to be a listener. In fact, very early in my life, while journeying three hundred and something miles to Kuala Lumpur to attend the motivation seminar by Lawrence Chan, I learned the importance of listening well.
However, today i wish to concentrate on this problem of some people who could get them into problems with others. It is the strong desire to talk, talk and talk, sometimes repeating the information already given previously. When something is repeated, the listener gets bored. So the talker is boring to his friends. Nobody would want that, I believe. Yet, it is an unconscious urge to listen to the person's own voice and also prove that he is an authority on the topic.
What the speaker does not realise is that when someone dominates too much and most of the things are the same old stories, everyone already knows them and are not willing to ache their ears having to tolerate the boring sounds emitting from the source. This is especially so when the listeners are given no opportunity to take part of the conversation.
It is not just the repetition that we dislike. In order for such people to last a long time talking endlessly, they put in the smallest uninteresting detail into their talk, explaining extensively what is sometimes so obvious, expected and certain.
And what is the result? As expected, most people would avoid such a talker. Excuses would quickly be given to avoid or escape from further verbal torture. Only a very few would tolerate the person and even those few would complain and at the earliest moment disappear from the scene.
I have made a study of such people. I have found that the problem arises from some causes. One of them is a habit copied from the family members. Yes, parents who talk too much or refuses to listen to other people's points of view have a great influence on their children who imitates them and become just like them. So parents ought to be careful not to turn into such long-winded, one-sided talkers.
And old people, me included, have that tendency to elaborate more than others. Especially so when the children have been away for some time and the desire to chat with them is so great. Right! So what can be done. We ought to realise our long-winded talking and do something about it. Realisation is the beginning of change. When we realise something has become undesirable, then we change and learn to allow others to voice their thoughts and help to have an interchange of feeling and ideas rather than to have a lecturer and his/her listeners.
And there are those who needs appreciation or a raise in self-esteem. These need to show others how much they know, to impress others with their knowledge. Of course, self-esteem is important to all of us. So is being appreciated. However, this can still be done without having to dominate so much as to prevent others having their say.
Eventually, the choice is our own. To know who we are, to see if we are the ones who lecture all the way and whether we feel everything is fine. Then, if we find that we do dominate, we must choose whether to change or not. Change is not difficult as realisation helps pave the way to such a change. This part is important as I have come across people who cannot see any problem with their ways despite someone pointing it out to them. Well, if they are happy as they are, we ought to wish them all the best for eventually everyone is the master of his/her own fate.
Of course, it is not bad to be a listener. In fact, very early in my life, while journeying three hundred and something miles to Kuala Lumpur to attend the motivation seminar by Lawrence Chan, I learned the importance of listening well.
However, today i wish to concentrate on this problem of some people who could get them into problems with others. It is the strong desire to talk, talk and talk, sometimes repeating the information already given previously. When something is repeated, the listener gets bored. So the talker is boring to his friends. Nobody would want that, I believe. Yet, it is an unconscious urge to listen to the person's own voice and also prove that he is an authority on the topic.
What the speaker does not realise is that when someone dominates too much and most of the things are the same old stories, everyone already knows them and are not willing to ache their ears having to tolerate the boring sounds emitting from the source. This is especially so when the listeners are given no opportunity to take part of the conversation.
It is not just the repetition that we dislike. In order for such people to last a long time talking endlessly, they put in the smallest uninteresting detail into their talk, explaining extensively what is sometimes so obvious, expected and certain.
And what is the result? As expected, most people would avoid such a talker. Excuses would quickly be given to avoid or escape from further verbal torture. Only a very few would tolerate the person and even those few would complain and at the earliest moment disappear from the scene.
I have made a study of such people. I have found that the problem arises from some causes. One of them is a habit copied from the family members. Yes, parents who talk too much or refuses to listen to other people's points of view have a great influence on their children who imitates them and become just like them. So parents ought to be careful not to turn into such long-winded, one-sided talkers.
And old people, me included, have that tendency to elaborate more than others. Especially so when the children have been away for some time and the desire to chat with them is so great. Right! So what can be done. We ought to realise our long-winded talking and do something about it. Realisation is the beginning of change. When we realise something has become undesirable, then we change and learn to allow others to voice their thoughts and help to have an interchange of feeling and ideas rather than to have a lecturer and his/her listeners.
And there are those who needs appreciation or a raise in self-esteem. These need to show others how much they know, to impress others with their knowledge. Of course, self-esteem is important to all of us. So is being appreciated. However, this can still be done without having to dominate so much as to prevent others having their say.
Eventually, the choice is our own. To know who we are, to see if we are the ones who lecture all the way and whether we feel everything is fine. Then, if we find that we do dominate, we must choose whether to change or not. Change is not difficult as realisation helps pave the way to such a change. This part is important as I have come across people who cannot see any problem with their ways despite someone pointing it out to them. Well, if they are happy as they are, we ought to wish them all the best for eventually everyone is the master of his/her own fate.
Thursday, February 03, 2011
How do you get your children to be interested.
How can anyone be interested if he does not even know such a thing exists? For a child to be interested in anything, he must first see it, know the beauty of the thing, appreciate that beauty and is given the opportunity to try it. Without all those mentioned, the interest in anything cannot be ignited. It remains unknown, dormant, unrealised and impossible to appreciate.
Take an artist. He must know that there are pencils, brushes, charcoal or pieces of wood or stone. Then he must have a surface to make marks with them and realise he can create something of beauty with them. However, there must also be talent. Without talent he cannot create beauty. However, to discover that talent, he needs the opportunity to use the materials and through their use realise the inborn ability within him. When that realisation is reached, the desire to create is sufficiently great to bring about some form of accomplishment. And should there be appreciation from the parents, relatives and the public, then there is encouragement. Encouragement brings inspiration to greater achievement.
So it is the same with our children. A simple word for all the steps to bring out such possible talent is exposure. As parents, we could give our children as much exposure as possible to everything available in our world. Observe the interest shown by the child, encourage the interest and permit it to go to any level the child may want to climb. Make accessible all necessary materials; as much materials as is affordable. Then, leave the rest to the natural growth of the child's development.
All these might not bring great wealth financially, but the richness of his emotional, physical and mental development will suffice to make him a man of enthusiasm, the happiest and most satisfied, a developed adult who would have found his own niche and has forever a place in life, never worried that he has too much time on his hands, always interested in life. If that is not enough reason to strive to bring out the best in an individual, I don't know what is.
Take an artist. He must know that there are pencils, brushes, charcoal or pieces of wood or stone. Then he must have a surface to make marks with them and realise he can create something of beauty with them. However, there must also be talent. Without talent he cannot create beauty. However, to discover that talent, he needs the opportunity to use the materials and through their use realise the inborn ability within him. When that realisation is reached, the desire to create is sufficiently great to bring about some form of accomplishment. And should there be appreciation from the parents, relatives and the public, then there is encouragement. Encouragement brings inspiration to greater achievement.
So it is the same with our children. A simple word for all the steps to bring out such possible talent is exposure. As parents, we could give our children as much exposure as possible to everything available in our world. Observe the interest shown by the child, encourage the interest and permit it to go to any level the child may want to climb. Make accessible all necessary materials; as much materials as is affordable. Then, leave the rest to the natural growth of the child's development.
All these might not bring great wealth financially, but the richness of his emotional, physical and mental development will suffice to make him a man of enthusiasm, the happiest and most satisfied, a developed adult who would have found his own niche and has forever a place in life, never worried that he has too much time on his hands, always interested in life. If that is not enough reason to strive to bring out the best in an individual, I don't know what is.
Sunday, January 09, 2011
Let things be.
No two persons are a hundred percent the same. So inevitably, there will be differences in opinions. Those who cannot accept this fact should never get married for a marriage consists of two individuals who certainly have minds of their own. If differences in opinions and ideas cannot be tolerated or accepted, there will forever be arguments and such arguments are bound to harm the marriage.
If a person is matured enough to understand that the one he/she loves should be allowed to stick to his/her opinions with the understanding that the other partner is also allowed to keep whatever opposing opinions, then such respect allows love to flourish and happiness to grow.
The reality of this can be observed through either observation or own experiences. For those who have had tiffs with their loved ones, they should ask themselves, "Were all those arguments important enough to put so much stress on their marriage?" I personally have asked my own colleagues and friends this and they, after thinking about it for a short while, agreed that none of the arguments or quarrels they had hold much importance in their lives."
So let things be and a winner in such circumstances may turn out to be the loser. Those who have lost in a marriage would understand this on hindsight and in their regrets. If we understand this from the sad experiences of others we could benefit through them and avoid getting into petty issues that can escalate only because the other party just had to win the argument and lose the marriage.
If a person is matured enough to understand that the one he/she loves should be allowed to stick to his/her opinions with the understanding that the other partner is also allowed to keep whatever opposing opinions, then such respect allows love to flourish and happiness to grow.
The reality of this can be observed through either observation or own experiences. For those who have had tiffs with their loved ones, they should ask themselves, "Were all those arguments important enough to put so much stress on their marriage?" I personally have asked my own colleagues and friends this and they, after thinking about it for a short while, agreed that none of the arguments or quarrels they had hold much importance in their lives."
So let things be and a winner in such circumstances may turn out to be the loser. Those who have lost in a marriage would understand this on hindsight and in their regrets. If we understand this from the sad experiences of others we could benefit through them and avoid getting into petty issues that can escalate only because the other party just had to win the argument and lose the marriage.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Why most mother-in-laws always get a bad name?
"Why must mother-in laws go where angels fear to tread?"
"Because it involves their sons or daughters, their blood and skin, and no one shall ever be allowed to threaten their welfare or happiness, imagined or otherwise!"
Really but the irony is that whenever mother-in-laws take sides, and invariably it is their own sons' or daughters' side, welfare scoots out the front door and happiness splatters onto the floor and drips into the drain if they are allowed to have things their way.
I have always advised young married couples to stay in a place of their own, no matter how shabby they have to be. It is surely better than any palace of both parents, no matter how grand they might be. Tell me who rules in those palaces if not the mother-in-laws. And the rulers ordained that her word is law, never ever to be disputed by any, except perhaps the kings themselves.
Those young couples who happen to be lucky to meet great kings in those palaces will find salvation, if not it will truly test their love for each other; and many great lovers have fallen in those moments of stress. Why give love such an unnecessary test when a simple move like having a little home of one's own can prevent the
problem.
In the first place, such a problem need not arise as all good mothers love their children and would certainly want their children to find eternal bliss in love. I sincerely believe they do. In that case why must problems come in many cases from them?
I believe it is jealousy. It is a human trait. You see, for years, the child was hers and hers alone, especially so if the father is out somewhere working for the money. Mother cooks the the child, frets over every little discomfort that may be noticed and cares for that little one in every way twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week without any holiday at all. Then, after about twenty years, minus or add a few years, someone else, a total stranger comes along and sweeps her little boy or girl off, gains most of his/her attention and love which was once hers alone and comes into her palace to perhaps take over her stately position in the house-hold. For the love of her child she could tolerate certain things but then, imaginary or real threats are seen as the new woman of the house (Of course, it does happen with the men too, but it is usually with the woman.)seem to be the new authority when her child was concerned. The threats grew threateningly unbearable and it is a matter of time before something gives and all that is toxic is vomited out to shatter the peace of the home. The fuse that explodes the bomb could be anything from a careless word to some misunderstanding or even a dispute of family matters.
The thing is usually the problem is between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. Well, it is probably because the face each other almost eighteen hours a day if both are not working. Even it there are working both are sort of in control of household matters and here there can be a clash of ideas and methodology. Nevertheless, as women, why can't they help their female kind achieve some kind of harmony and success which would be beneficial to both parties? Why not come to an amiable understanding and have respect for each other so that their common household can be the haven for happiness?
Perhaps, the women can form a kind of society and exchange ideas or teach each other how they could live even better lives with greater understanding of each other. With time we, regardless of sex, ought to become better humans.
"Because it involves their sons or daughters, their blood and skin, and no one shall ever be allowed to threaten their welfare or happiness, imagined or otherwise!"
Really but the irony is that whenever mother-in-laws take sides, and invariably it is their own sons' or daughters' side, welfare scoots out the front door and happiness splatters onto the floor and drips into the drain if they are allowed to have things their way.
I have always advised young married couples to stay in a place of their own, no matter how shabby they have to be. It is surely better than any palace of both parents, no matter how grand they might be. Tell me who rules in those palaces if not the mother-in-laws. And the rulers ordained that her word is law, never ever to be disputed by any, except perhaps the kings themselves.
Those young couples who happen to be lucky to meet great kings in those palaces will find salvation, if not it will truly test their love for each other; and many great lovers have fallen in those moments of stress. Why give love such an unnecessary test when a simple move like having a little home of one's own can prevent the
problem.
In the first place, such a problem need not arise as all good mothers love their children and would certainly want their children to find eternal bliss in love. I sincerely believe they do. In that case why must problems come in many cases from them?
I believe it is jealousy. It is a human trait. You see, for years, the child was hers and hers alone, especially so if the father is out somewhere working for the money. Mother cooks the the child, frets over every little discomfort that may be noticed and cares for that little one in every way twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week without any holiday at all. Then, after about twenty years, minus or add a few years, someone else, a total stranger comes along and sweeps her little boy or girl off, gains most of his/her attention and love which was once hers alone and comes into her palace to perhaps take over her stately position in the house-hold. For the love of her child she could tolerate certain things but then, imaginary or real threats are seen as the new woman of the house (Of course, it does happen with the men too, but it is usually with the woman.)seem to be the new authority when her child was concerned. The threats grew threateningly unbearable and it is a matter of time before something gives and all that is toxic is vomited out to shatter the peace of the home. The fuse that explodes the bomb could be anything from a careless word to some misunderstanding or even a dispute of family matters.
The thing is usually the problem is between mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws. Well, it is probably because the face each other almost eighteen hours a day if both are not working. Even it there are working both are sort of in control of household matters and here there can be a clash of ideas and methodology. Nevertheless, as women, why can't they help their female kind achieve some kind of harmony and success which would be beneficial to both parties? Why not come to an amiable understanding and have respect for each other so that their common household can be the haven for happiness?
Perhaps, the women can form a kind of society and exchange ideas or teach each other how they could live even better lives with greater understanding of each other. With time we, regardless of sex, ought to become better humans.
Thursday, October 07, 2010
The legacy.
Folks, below is what someone sent me through the email. As I fully endorse what has been said, I'm putting it down in this blog so that all of you can appreciate and benefit from a man who looked back on his life at a particular point in his life and saw the truth and realised others could benefit from it. So here goes, exactly what I got in my email.
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This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then; a book that became one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind…
In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.
POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE
Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.
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This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then; a book that became one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind…
In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.
POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE
Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.
Wednesday, October 06, 2010
Keep a watchful eye on the helpless.
Today we read about the abduction of a four-day-old baby from the living room of his house by a wild monkey. It fled with the baby up the roof, bit the baby and dropped it to the ground where it died.
Such incidents may be rare but the possibility of it happening is always present. Nowadays, animals and humans present a danger to the helpless. There are always humans ready to pounce to profit from whatever is available. There are always desperate people who may just be looking for the opportunity to get hold of a few ringgit. As for the monkeys, their foraging area is getting smaller as man move further into the outskirts to develop areas which was once jungle, the home of monkeys and wild animals.
Up the hill near Taman Semarak where I have my daily exercise, more and more monkeys are seen, taking the fruits on the trees in that area. When the fruits are all gone, I wonder where they are going to get their food. With food exhausted, what would these monkeys do? They would venture into housing estates to get fruits planted by the residents and when those are no longer sufficient, hunger might drive them into kitchens and houses. So, the monkey which went into that infant's living room could have been searching for its much needed food and found the poor helpless 'creature' a possible meal. The cries of the infant upon being bitten could have frightened it to release him/her to have him/her fall all the way down to the ground.
It is time we think of the monkeys and other animals which have been deprived of their habitat. There must be some kind of plan to give sufficient space for them. We ought not to be too greedy, thinking only of humans only. In fact there are buildings that are not fully utilised. Do we really need those buildings. Perhaps some of the building could be built with multi-purposes in mind. Whatever it is, we should think of the animals which are also creations of God and make sure they have a place under our sun.
Such incidents may be rare but the possibility of it happening is always present. Nowadays, animals and humans present a danger to the helpless. There are always humans ready to pounce to profit from whatever is available. There are always desperate people who may just be looking for the opportunity to get hold of a few ringgit. As for the monkeys, their foraging area is getting smaller as man move further into the outskirts to develop areas which was once jungle, the home of monkeys and wild animals.
Up the hill near Taman Semarak where I have my daily exercise, more and more monkeys are seen, taking the fruits on the trees in that area. When the fruits are all gone, I wonder where they are going to get their food. With food exhausted, what would these monkeys do? They would venture into housing estates to get fruits planted by the residents and when those are no longer sufficient, hunger might drive them into kitchens and houses. So, the monkey which went into that infant's living room could have been searching for its much needed food and found the poor helpless 'creature' a possible meal. The cries of the infant upon being bitten could have frightened it to release him/her to have him/her fall all the way down to the ground.
It is time we think of the monkeys and other animals which have been deprived of their habitat. There must be some kind of plan to give sufficient space for them. We ought not to be too greedy, thinking only of humans only. In fact there are buildings that are not fully utilised. Do we really need those buildings. Perhaps some of the building could be built with multi-purposes in mind. Whatever it is, we should think of the animals which are also creations of God and make sure they have a place under our sun.
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