In all things we do, suitability is of utmost importance. The clothes we wear ought to suit the occassion. The speech we give should be right for the audience gathered. The words we use depends upon the language and the proficiency in the language of the people concerned. When a speech is not totally understood, it cannot expect to be appreciated. Neither should it be too simple if it is delivered to literary figures. It all boils down to suitability. Similarly, our actions and behaviour ought to suit the occassion. At times we can have brazen, bawdy jokes but there are times such jokes are unacceptable. The jokes have to be suitable.
Last night, I attended one new year party where one of the programmes was a display of talent by some musicians. The musicians did very well and even a music ignoramus like me could enjoy the songs, music and the showmanship of some of the talents. Unfortunately, most of the people present were out to renew friendships, exchange the latest news and enjoy each other's company. At one point, the chatter of the happy crowd almost drowned the music of the musicians. I rally felt sorry for them but then we cannot blame the great number of people who attended the gathering which was intended to be a coming together, a sort of unity function where they made the function a success by enthusiatically enjoyed the food and each other's presence with unbridled happiness. It is just that the musical programme was unsuitable for the event despite the great talents those young musicians displayed.
Well, suitability still is a factor which must be taken into account.
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Friday, February 26, 2010
Friday, January 29, 2010
The time to do it.
To help our babies and young children get an excellent start in life is as easy as it is difficult. I must agree that that sounds complicated. What do I mean? Exactly this: those who have the time and know-how will find it easy while those who never have the time nor the know-how will find it difficult although I am talking of the same topic which is giving our children a headstart in life, physically, spiritually and mentally.
However, admittedly, every family is different. There are those families who have time for almost anything while there are those who just find it hard to have time with their families. How far is this true?
Well, like it or not, we have just twenty-four hours a day. Of course, even if all of us put in all that time for our families only, the quantity and quality of the things done will differ from one individual to another. Why?
First, there is the passion, the interest, the strength of the desire to do the best for the family.
Then, there is the attitude. What kind of attitude a person has towards responsible for the welfare of his/her family? Does he/she feel that whatever he/she does not do, will be done by the other better half? Then, what if both husband and wife were to think along that same line?
Next, what is our priority? Is the excellent development of our child our priority? Is it important enough to forgo other things? This is also part of our attitude towards the idea of family.
If our priority is the development of the whole family in a marriage, then we should have thought of the need for responsibility, time and expenses towards, first one additional person, then another as time gets on. If we have no time for a wife, then we ought not to think of marriage. And if we do not have time for children, we should not concieve our first child. When we, it can be between our partner and us, are capable of carrying out such responsibility, sharing time and having sufficient funds to manage a home, then can there be a successful marriage. Of course, there must be love in the first place for this dream to begin.
The dream of a successful marriage can start but it may be shattered if; like so many Hollywood marriages where time is insufficient to share as they put in every effort to reach even greater heights in their career, giving priority more to fame than marriage success; insufficient time and attention is given for the dream to materialise successfully.
Likewise, if we dream of having our children have outstanding success in life, we must put in enough time and attention to the dream for it to become reality.
So, we must have the time. It just means that we have to manage our time well. How do we do it. Thinking and planning, then acting on it, is how things are achieved.
We need about eight hours sleep and eight hours work to have sufficient rest and finance to support our family. (Here again, there are people who put in more time than that into their work.) Then there is time spent on the road, moving to and from work. Let us give a guy two hours for that. That leaves us six hours for the other things which could be done together with the family, such as eating, watching television, reading, story-telling, chatting, outings and other activities.
Obviously, the more time we have, the more we can possibly achieve. In fact, we, ourselves, may not have more than six hours but our children have more than twelve hours to learn and reach the highest potential possible in every sphere of life. You see, a child does not work during the first six or seven years of his/her life. Other than sleep, he has the rest of the time to learn. either from the parents, the guardians or a childminder.
In time-management, the hours available is the same. Only the activities can be changed. What activities can we forgo? What activities will not help our child and our family grow? Such activities can be struck off, at least for the first six or seven years of our child's life. Thus, if we had spent two hours on those activities, we can have an additional two hours to move our dream along. So, time and activities are up to us to manipulate so as to get the most out of it.
If we have guardians, relatives, childminders or whoever care for our children when we are not around, one criteria will be: How much time can these people give to our children? Are our children to be left to themselves most of the time? How much time do they get to learn things and improve themselves so as to raise their potential?
In all that we wish to achieve, we have to start on it and having no time is usually the worst excuse given. The time is ours to use. So, use it wisely.
Besides
However, admittedly, every family is different. There are those families who have time for almost anything while there are those who just find it hard to have time with their families. How far is this true?
Well, like it or not, we have just twenty-four hours a day. Of course, even if all of us put in all that time for our families only, the quantity and quality of the things done will differ from one individual to another. Why?
First, there is the passion, the interest, the strength of the desire to do the best for the family.
Then, there is the attitude. What kind of attitude a person has towards responsible for the welfare of his/her family? Does he/she feel that whatever he/she does not do, will be done by the other better half? Then, what if both husband and wife were to think along that same line?
Next, what is our priority? Is the excellent development of our child our priority? Is it important enough to forgo other things? This is also part of our attitude towards the idea of family.
If our priority is the development of the whole family in a marriage, then we should have thought of the need for responsibility, time and expenses towards, first one additional person, then another as time gets on. If we have no time for a wife, then we ought not to think of marriage. And if we do not have time for children, we should not concieve our first child. When we, it can be between our partner and us, are capable of carrying out such responsibility, sharing time and having sufficient funds to manage a home, then can there be a successful marriage. Of course, there must be love in the first place for this dream to begin.
The dream of a successful marriage can start but it may be shattered if; like so many Hollywood marriages where time is insufficient to share as they put in every effort to reach even greater heights in their career, giving priority more to fame than marriage success; insufficient time and attention is given for the dream to materialise successfully.
Likewise, if we dream of having our children have outstanding success in life, we must put in enough time and attention to the dream for it to become reality.
So, we must have the time. It just means that we have to manage our time well. How do we do it. Thinking and planning, then acting on it, is how things are achieved.
We need about eight hours sleep and eight hours work to have sufficient rest and finance to support our family. (Here again, there are people who put in more time than that into their work.) Then there is time spent on the road, moving to and from work. Let us give a guy two hours for that. That leaves us six hours for the other things which could be done together with the family, such as eating, watching television, reading, story-telling, chatting, outings and other activities.
Obviously, the more time we have, the more we can possibly achieve. In fact, we, ourselves, may not have more than six hours but our children have more than twelve hours to learn and reach the highest potential possible in every sphere of life. You see, a child does not work during the first six or seven years of his/her life. Other than sleep, he has the rest of the time to learn. either from the parents, the guardians or a childminder.
In time-management, the hours available is the same. Only the activities can be changed. What activities can we forgo? What activities will not help our child and our family grow? Such activities can be struck off, at least for the first six or seven years of our child's life. Thus, if we had spent two hours on those activities, we can have an additional two hours to move our dream along. So, time and activities are up to us to manipulate so as to get the most out of it.
If we have guardians, relatives, childminders or whoever care for our children when we are not around, one criteria will be: How much time can these people give to our children? Are our children to be left to themselves most of the time? How much time do they get to learn things and improve themselves so as to raise their potential?
In all that we wish to achieve, we have to start on it and having no time is usually the worst excuse given. The time is ours to use. So, use it wisely.
Besides
Thursday, November 05, 2009
Even the best laid plan can go wrong. Isn't that life?
There was that day I looked forward to an outing with a very special. beautiful friend. The night before I went to bed early and set my alarm for 5,45am. I woke up athe second the alarm went off, stretched happily and jumped out of bed. A good bath, breakfast and a quick change of clothes got me ready to move out. Then, all of a sudden, the sound of the torrent of water poured from the sky and dashed my hopes of meeting that special friend.
Today, I was planning to write about one person who would certainly be an inspiration for all of us. Unfortunately, since nine o'clock in the morning, the electricity in my area was cut off and there was no opportunity to write anything much till seven-thirty, after my dinner.
As we can see, things are sometimes beyond our control. It happens. Some are happy happenings while others can be sad.
There was a time when a girl friend and I were getting closer and closer. Then, some unforseen incident happened and that was the end of our beautiful relationship. That incident was really sad as she was such a wonderful person. I often wonder how that could have happened. Eventually, I had no alternative but to put it down as fate. It must have been our fate for the sudden change to take place.
So, I have accepted the fact that change can happen and we have to accept it. It is part of our life. We can plan. We can dream of a future but that dream may not meterialise due to circumstances beyond our reckoning. It just happens and before we could make any remedy, things have changed and will never be the same again.
Whatever it is, where there is life there is always hope, there is always a chance that things may happen to bring us our dreams. Therefore, life is always precious and we should live our present time to its fullest as that is the only way to ensure that the future will be even better, with dreams that may come and hopes that may arise.
Knowing that things can change, there is the element of chance and opportunity for what we may not think is possible. There is that sense of adventure into the unknown, a time for surprises and new experiences.
Thus, regardless of how plans may go haywire, regardless of the changes that may come, life is worth the living. And armed with the best health possible, I look forward to all possibilities. That is how we should live life.
Today, I was planning to write about one person who would certainly be an inspiration for all of us. Unfortunately, since nine o'clock in the morning, the electricity in my area was cut off and there was no opportunity to write anything much till seven-thirty, after my dinner.
As we can see, things are sometimes beyond our control. It happens. Some are happy happenings while others can be sad.
There was a time when a girl friend and I were getting closer and closer. Then, some unforseen incident happened and that was the end of our beautiful relationship. That incident was really sad as she was such a wonderful person. I often wonder how that could have happened. Eventually, I had no alternative but to put it down as fate. It must have been our fate for the sudden change to take place.
So, I have accepted the fact that change can happen and we have to accept it. It is part of our life. We can plan. We can dream of a future but that dream may not meterialise due to circumstances beyond our reckoning. It just happens and before we could make any remedy, things have changed and will never be the same again.
Whatever it is, where there is life there is always hope, there is always a chance that things may happen to bring us our dreams. Therefore, life is always precious and we should live our present time to its fullest as that is the only way to ensure that the future will be even better, with dreams that may come and hopes that may arise.
Knowing that things can change, there is the element of chance and opportunity for what we may not think is possible. There is that sense of adventure into the unknown, a time for surprises and new experiences.
Thus, regardless of how plans may go haywire, regardless of the changes that may come, life is worth the living. And armed with the best health possible, I look forward to all possibilities. That is how we should live life.
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