When life becomes too easy, problems may arise.

There was this couple who has put in a lot of work to ensure the family grows successfully not just physically, spiritually, and emotionally but also financially. Both the husband and the wife worked for others to get a good enough income for the family’s needs. Then as they improved financially, there was enough money to think of having their own factory to produce a product the husband was good at.

With the factory’s gradual development, life became so much easier that there was no longer any need for the wife to work. So, she concentrated her energy on the home and children. Soon, the financial situation was so good that they even got a maid to help do the house-hold chores. As the years went by, the grown-up children went for further studies which left mum with so much time on her hands that she took up her old interest of putting together jig-saw puzzles. Her interest grew and she spent quite a lot of pleasurable time on it.

During the earlier years when life was a lot of work and not much time for hobbies or leisure, both were too tired to think of life outside their office hours. Years passed without any of them having the time to wonder what the other had been doing or had not done.

However, when there was more leisure time, and the wife spent more time on her puzzles, the husband had the time to feel that the wife was ignoring or neglecting his presence. However, the wife did not realise that the husband felt that way as a year or two before, when the husband had to be at his factory more often, she was already busily enjoying her puzzles without any husband around to need her attention.

As a result of too much time to spend together, the one with less activities to occupy himself/herself with felt lonely and neglected. Such are human feelings and emotions. It could have lead to marital problems, had not both those people in this story been close enough or educated enough to communicate their problems to each other. Fortunate for them, they managed to understand how the problem had arisen due to too easy a life with too much time to spare and insufficient activities to use up such excess time.

Well, not every couple is as fortunate as this one. There have been men who would have gone off in a huff to find undesirable activities afield. A third party may emerge to complicate the matter further and matters can become too serious to ever be resolved.

Even the middle class can have such problems as life becomes easier and there is extra time for new activities which may not be healthy for the body or the marriage.

Therefore, when circumstances change, be it life getter easier or tougher, all parties concerned must beware of undesirable changes and attempt to assist each other overcome the problem. Changes are constantly taking place but when changes occur slowly and gradually, such changes can be adapted to more easily by both partners in a marriage. Whatever it is marriage is like a tree that requires tender loving care at all times. When there is such tender loving care, you would notice the needs of each other more and move to fulfill that need.