To remove and replace thoughts in our minds.

There are times in our lives when sorrow comes in, hoping to stay. It could be the death of a dear one, the loss of a beloved in a relationship or the inability to get close to somebody. Whatever it is, when it happens, there is bound to be sadness and possibly pain in the inner core of the heart.

It is good to experience such feelings for it indicates that we are just as human as any other. That we have such feelings is proof that we are capable of love, the most powerful and the most important emotion in our lives. Our lives are richer because of it. However, if the emotions stay too long, it may hurt us sufficiently to interfere with the right thoughts and working of our mind. Its negative effect may incapacitate us and our mind. We may lose all sense of balance in our lives.
Our mind would not be thinking of the future. It would not be thinking of progress. The situation has block further incoming thoughts on other matters. We only see a face and remember fondly the features associated with it. We see the beauty of the person. We recollect sweet memories of days gone by. We wish and pray for the impossible even as we realise it would all be in vain. However, such is the nature of all good humans that we will have to go through this phase. It just has to be thus.

The important point is how we can get out of this phase and move on with our lives. There just is no way we can empty those thoughts of the past. To remove what is past, we have to fill the mind with something new and consciously keep on filling the mind with fresh ideas and possibilities until the mind is tired and goes into sleep. To assist such rest, we could be involved in physical activities so that eventually we are physically and mentally tired, tired enough to fall asleep and forget the past.

Of course, it is easier said than done. Time is the assisting factor in gradually fading the past and moving in to new areas of interest or reaching into rejuvenating old interests. Even for someone who has no interest in any subject or matter, that person only need to go out and join the living again by mixing with people in clubs, associations or any group in any activity where the person can participate. When one is involved in an activity and is exchanging thoughts and ideas with others, the thoughts of the moment excludes all else, especially those which we wish to put away.
By involving oneself whole-heartedly in living life, concentrating on work, friends, people in and around the environment and being compassionate by assisting those who need help; even doing volunteer work in old folks’ homes or orphanages; we put our passion into life and living. We reach out to people and new horizons, enriched by the happiness and gratefulness of people whose hearts we touched. This, in turn, brings joy and a new meaning to life.

Nevertheless, life is for living and in the process we are certain to encounter once again the pain and sorrow of loss. However, having experience it once and survived the ordeal, we are more ready to accept it as part of life and, no matter how much more terrible the loss may be, we understand that life must go on and we ought to live life as much to the full as we possibly can, for that is life.