There can only be one queen.

Through experience,I would say unless you can afford your own home, if you can, do not jump into marriage yet. The exception would be when the incumbent lady and the new lady of the house have, through years of knowing each other well, found each other very compatible or able to allow one of them to rule the home. Otherwise, I can assure you there will be trouble aplenty in the years to come; for in a home, there can only be one 'queen'.

If a son thinks he can manage any problem that can crop up, I can assure him he will be found wrong. He can never please both his mother and his wife at the same time when both cackle and fight to rule the roost. And do not ever believe that an unbiased judge who listens to either of them separately could say that he is right.

In the end, his mother would accuse him of siding with his wife and she would point out the times when she was certainly in the right, omitting the times she was wrong. The same thing would occur should his wife be telling her story. Both are always right as their aim is to paint a terrible picture of the other party.

As for that son, his greatest mistake is to establish his kingdom in the palace of his parents. He cannot usurp his parents' throne. Once things go wrong, every move the queens make will be scrutinised with suspicion. There will always arise some kind of criticism for the minds of the queens have been tuned to play such notes for every act of the other queen.

And when the minds are so tuned, there could be no way the mind can change for it is the mind of the aggrieved one who can only expect sympathy and apology. Justice can only be done when the irritant and tormentor is removed from the scene.

Although we understand that change is inevitable in our lives, changes that we want to make can be difficult to come by.

In such a circumstance the only move that son can make is to move out if he is wise. however, if he and his queen are too stubborn to face the reality of such an impossible situation, then woe betide all of them as the 'Hundred Years War' can continue till death do them part. There will be no winner, only losers. That is the sad reality they will have to face.

If the war is allowed to continue to that sad end, then they have lost every chance to have real happiness for no matter who seem to be getting the upper hand, the embattled, bitter thoughts that persists in the mind wards off whatever happiness that hopes to emerge. Any laughter that results must be empty and hollow.

Is all that bitterness, irritation, anger and quarrels worth whatever any party hopes to achieve? Is life just this miserable petty struggle for power in the home?