Conquer self-pity and strength will be yours.

Once in a long while, we may find ourselves in the doldrums and we imagine some kind of weakness. We may perhaps suffer some kind of pain due to a loss of a relationship with someone or whatever that is possible.

At such a time, we feel a loss and some self pity perhaps. There could be this 'poor me' feeling. We could be asking ourselves, "What is going to become of me after this?"

Then our mind could be thinking of the hundred and one, if not a thousand and one, miserable things that could happen to 'poor me'. Our mind would dwell on all kinds of such addictive pitying thoughts, hoping to comfort ourselves with them. Yes, it is a reactive process which, to a certain degree, comforts us.

Unfortunately, such thoughts are in no way able to help us to recover from whatever setback we could have experienced. The process can have us think of the setback and find a solution or target the weakness that had brought about the problem and so prepare for future happenings. That is all. Unfortunately, if it is prolonged, it serves to be negative and a waste of time. Furthermore, if we allow ourselves to wallow in its comforting inertia, its addictive nature may prevent us from recovering and considering taking positive action to move on to other 'doors of opportunity' awaiting us.

However, understanding and realisation of self-pity's debilitating effect will give the impetus to move out of it. With it overcome, we can look forward to better things to appear. Life is full of surprises if we open our minds to all the possiblities that exist. In this, I am fortunate to have experienced such happenings in my life.

So, when we conquer self-pity, we find the strength to reach out to the many doors available in life. It brings new experiences, new people and unknown knowledge, bringing with them happiness and joy. Experiencing such happiness and joy is great at whatever age and this is the main reason I wish everyone to understand this fantastic way of our nature.

I believe many of you must have had such experiences in overcoming problems in life. Well, do feel free to share it with our fellow brothers and sisters.