For the sake of love, don't force it. Let it happen naturally.

Once a person wants someone to change, the change will happen. But it would not be the change the person wants. The intensity of the love will change and soon dilution occurs. Love gradually fades away.

This happens because the implication of requesting change is you are not pleased with the present person. You do not like a part of that person. So, there is doubt about your love. For, love is supposed to be blind.

A lover cannot be a disciplinarian. He cannot demand that the one he loves do such and such a thing even though it is for her own good; even if she realizes that he is doing it because he cares.

All those who have loved and lost must examine this important aspect of love, for success can only be achieved when there is no demand despite weaknesses seen. To love someone is to except the person as he or she is. When you except someone, then you have the belief you can put up with whatever minus points the person has. That is the only way to start a marriage.

Anyway, there is no such thing as a perfect person. That person does not exist! Only God is perfect.

So, we have to ask ourselves, do we love the person enough to overlook everything else? Can we love the person despite anything else?

If there is love, the person with the weaknesses will take the initiative to change on his/her own. That is done to make the other person happy; to improve oneself so as to be appreciated even more; to be loved even more.

Do you remember your first date? Do you remember how you take the trouble to brush your teeth thoroughly? You test your own breath by placing your hand in front of your mouth so that the air from your mouth can reach your nose and you know that your breath is not smelly.

Do you remember how you dressed to please? Do you remember how you smile as charmingly as possible? Do you remember how anxious you were to please that someone? All these because of love! Love will change us for the better.

So, no matter how much you love or care for someone, let change happen naturally. Don’t force it!